…or truth of love?
there was a time (not really that long ago) that I felt that “the truth” at all cost was the way to go. Someone once told me, “when you argue with us, sometimes we have nothing to say – like you backed us into a corner.” I rejected what they said – sometimes even what they felt. And I thought that was a good – because I thought it only meant that I had thought my argument through. That I made more sense than them. That I was just being logical. They had no real reason. No real basis.
But after getting a flavour of my type of medicine, I think that maybe… just maybe, I wasn’t entirely right. I remember reading something in one of Adrian Plass’ books… the first time a little girl brings a drawing to you, do you say, “That’s nice! Did you draw that all by yourself?” or do you say, “I sorry Hannah – It’s just some random lines and scribblings… but good try, good try…” Is that not the truth?
Should we immediately deny feelings just because we think they’re unjustified?
Is it always wise to “expose the truth” no matter what?
love of truth… or truth of love?
Ahem, I suppose what I meant to convey (at that point of time) was that “I do understand but I have to tell you what I think too, when I think that it matters that you should hear it.” Does that make sense?
uh… sorry (or not, I’m not sure)… but I wasn’t thinking of you when I wrote this…
I think the situation you have in mind is closer to, “mommy! look at the nice shapes I can make on the paper using this knife…”
hahaha. It is funny when you put it that way. Please uncomment me then. Perasan.
Nothing is worse then… asking people if you should eat spaghetti for lunch…
And when people tells you that spaghetti is good, you start arguing back saying that spaghetti is bad because of blah blah… all in the name of Discussion and Idea Bouncing…
So in the end is spaghetti is good or not? No one is sure.
For many things in life, the truth is not important, because there is not real truth. Different people have different opinions and there is no point discussing over such difference.
If you have your answers, good. If not, go find out on your own. And lastly, don’t ask when you already know your answer, unless you are ready to change it.
hmm… actually, I believe truth does exist. But I feel we shouldn’t immediately dismiss the opinions of others and close our minds just because it doesn’t agree with our worldview. And I also feel we shouldn’t force worldviews down people’s throat, although I will (patiently, gently) try to convince others of what I believe is the truth.
But yeah, asking while refusing to accept an answer is usually a pointless pursuit.
“God is love”… and, “I am the Way, the Truth, and the Life…”
“speak the truth in love”…
all answers which, from your last comment, you already know =)
loving others includes valuing their opinions and emotions… even while attempting to communicate our perception of truth to them.
just a note on the child’s drawing: it might be interesting to ask the child what it is. from my readings on child development when i was forced to lecture it in my previous job, things which look like meaningless scribbles to adults may be meaningful representations of a child’s reality. once the adult understands that, it’s easier for the adult to appreciate the child’s effort. =)
i’m wondering, how did u get that taste of your own medicine? debates are always interesting to me… =)
a flavour of my type of medicine would be the debating on the pure logic route when feelings are involved.
re: child’s drawings
whoa, cool… I didn’t know that… so… does this also apply to doodling done by “adults”?
the truth is that love will be a truth to loves true truth when true love’s truth is a truth of love.
sounds like randomly joined words =.=
@darren: gobbledygook! =P
@chee eng: nope. it applies to children because their perceptions of the world are often very different from that of adults. also, depending on how young the child is, they may lack the necessary fine motor skills to draw recognisable symbolic shapes. these two factors are what may cause a child’s ‘drawing’ to be incomprehensible to an adult.
whereas when adults doodle, it’s just doodling. though the content of the doodling, if there is any, may sometimes reveal abit about the thoughts and personality of the person who doodled it. =)
I see…. cool…
If I have a feeling, I won’t deny it straight away,
instead I would like to understand the reason I’m having that feeling,
justified or not justified.
I believe there’s always a reason behind “feelings”. ^^
In the event when a little girl pass me her first drawing,
and I have spare time,
I would be very interested to know why did she drew it “that way”.
also good to remember not to be so eager to “deny” (in inverted commas because it’s not exactly denying) people’s feelings by trying to dissect their “feelings” when they don’t want you probing it.